But while it's

reasonable to ask someone to change their behaviour, it isn't reasonable for you to tell someone how they should feel. In other words, you can ask X not to yell at you, but you can't tell them not to be angry. You can request that X not call you more than twice a day, but you can't tell them not to feel alone and panicky when you're not around.  -- P. Mason, T. Kreger, 1998